This not only reinforces the sense of belonging, but clearly establishes the values that are important to your family too. Cleverly, invite values to your family partyīuild upon the sense of belonging by integrating what I call “value declarations” into your inclusion statements. With a strong “trunk,” the forming branches have the freedom to find their way.Įarly on, simple inclusive statements like, “We are the ( fill in your last name here) Smith’s!” allows our children to rely on belonging to our family group.
When our children know that they have strong roots with us, the forming “trunk” of their tree is allowed to grow strong. No matter what your family looks like, this is foundational. Phew! Working on ourselves is heavy, but if our kids are worth it, so are we, right?!īesides working on our own happiness, what can we actually DO to give our little ones a foundation to build their sense of self? Create a sense of belonging to your family Teaching our child that they matter because we show them that we matter is fundamental, though not always easy if we are still struggling with discovering our own self worth. *Groan* I know, but stay with me here… in the middle of the exhaustingly intense infant and toddler years, taking some time to work on yourself can be a key element in the long-term positive esteem for your whole family. So, start with your own sense of self worth.
He states that the lack of a positive self-image often leads to behavior problems, and that “In the early years, a child’s concept of self is so intimately tied up with the mother’s concept of herself that a sort of mutual self-worth building goes on.” Sears, in his piece 12 Ways to Raise a Confident Child, it is never too early to start, and the sooner the better. Self-image is definitely a “thing” is toddlerhood, and *gasp* even before! According to Dr. Self-image in Toddlerhood. Is that a “Thing?”
By starting early, and with a few language tricks, we can plant deep roots from which a strong, independent, confident, sense of self will grow. We can help our kids develop that strong sense of positive self-image. This will give them the voice required to face interpersonal challenges and the ability to stand up for themselves, and those around them. Bonus: Free mini-course How to Be a Positive Parent.
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